|Money can't buy me love
||[Feb. 16th, 2009|02:28 pm]
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After arguing with my boyfriend and him returning to my house an hour later with some of my favorite snacks and some flowers I began to wonder . . . .
Why do significant others feel as if purchasing gifts for each other somehow magically will help solve problems in relationships that need to actual honest communication to fix?
Men buy women flowers, chocolates, etc. in situations where they want to apologize. However, rather than say the actual words and express themselves emotionally, they open their wallets instead. I suppose with our economy what it is today and money becoming more and more of an issue in today's relationships certain gestures do seem pretty grand but money can't fix everything. If your boyfriend cheats and buys you diamonds, how will that ring assure you he won't go out one night and be unfaithful again? Newflash! It won't. Diamonds won't tell you what you want or need to hear, only your lovers mouth can do that.
Now I myself have purchased cologne, clothing, books, movies, and dozens of other things for past boyfriends out of guilt. Buying those things only gave me the subconscious feeling that I could continue to do things that would upset him as long as I made up for it financially, which is ridiculous. But you can kind of understand where the sentiment would originate. I work for my money, the things I spend my money on I work for, so it's a natural subsconcious feeling to think that because I'm spending money on my boyfriend I'm working on our relationship too. This is wrong, wrong, wrong.
When did a price tag determine the worth of our feelings?
Don't get me wrong, gifts are wonderful, and everyone likes to feel special but don't ever let a gift equal an apology in any relationship. Bottle up your true feelings and using a quick fix will just cause a lot more problems to spring up down the road.
Talk about your problems, I know it's rough but when a problem is finally resolved, that's a real gift in a relationship you can treasure together. So kiddies, just remember that The Beatles are right. Money can't buy me, or you, love.